"Meditation did not relieve me of my anxiety so much as flesh it out. It took my anxious response to the world, about which I felt a lot of confusion and shame, and let me understand it more completely. Perhaps the best way to phrase it is to say that meditation showed me that the other side of anxiety is desire. They exist in relationship to each other, not independently"
"Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel - and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good."
THE DO-IT-YOURSELF GUIDE TO MEETING GOOD PEOPLE AND FINDING NEW FRIENDS
As someone who spends a lot of time alone, I know how hard it is to make friends. Sometimes it might not seem worth the risk, but remember you can’t sail a boat without a crew, and boats are fucking cool. One thing people overlook is that friends can be anywhere. They don’t have to have the same diet or music taste or politics as you. They don’t have to be your age or your color or your class. The hardest thing is to overcome your anxiety and reach out, but if you do (and if that person is worth a damn) they’ll respect your courage, because if there’s one thing good people love, it’s bravery. Making friends can be one of the scariest fucking things you’ll ever do, but once you have them they’ll help soothe that fear. We can make it alone but it’s better (and more fun) not to."